Tuesday 14 July 2015

Wrong Methods of Choosing a Life Partner:

Wrong Methods of Choosing a Life Partner:
There are several wrong methods that are generally used by some people who go into marriage relationships. Such wrong methods cannot be said to be spiritual guidance in choosing a life partner. But they are merely leaping to the unknown with their eyes firmly closed. Such wrong methods had led to weak foundations for marriage and over 75 per cent of such marriages had collapsed, with some passing through very terrible situations. Such wrong methods are discussed below:-

Making one’s decision before praying for confirmation:
There are people who had made the choice of their future life partners, before seeking God’s face. They pray and seek signs for the confirmation of their choice. For example, a young man who had concluded on his own to marry a young girl, might pray and say, “If the girl will buy and present a white handkerchief to me, it will signify that it is God’s will for me to marry her.” This method is not only deceptive, but manipulative by the enemy. It shows unbelief and lack of trust in the Living God. This method is commonly used by those boys who are not sure of what they want from God. They are deceived for lack of understanding. Girls can also use this method where they have more than one boy coming to ask for their hand in marriage. But in all, young people should beware as signs that go after choices are pre-determined.
“The coming of the lawless one is according to the working of Satan with all power, signs and lying, wonders, and with all unrighteous deception, they did not receive the love of truth, that they might be saved” (2 Thessalonians 2:19, 10 NKJV).

Praying and asking contrary to God’s word:
It is wrong to pray and ask for future life partner contrary to God’s word. Many young people had prayed and asked for future life partners contrary to God’s word due to covetousness. There are instances where many young people had prayed and asked God’s approval for marriage relationship with unconverted souls, or people of other faiths without the knowledge of God.

Some of the young people do this because of what they have seen in the persons, the things of the world that cannot endure eternal test, and because of what they can gain from the marriage relationship. It ought not to be so. Like Prophet Balaam, who went to King Balak in an attempt to curse the Israelites because of his covetousness and prayed contrary to the word of God. God permitted him to go to meet King Balak. This was not the perfect will of God, but a permissive will of God, God reluctantly, permitted Prophet Balaam in order to teach him a lesson. Yet Prophet Balaam suffered for his stubbornness.

“Then Balaam answered and said to the servant of Balak, though Balak were to give me his house full of silver and gold, I would not go beyond the word of the Lord my God, to do less or more. Now therefore, please, you also stay here tonight that I may know what more the Lord will say to me.

And God came to Balaam at night and said to him, if the men come to call you, rise and go with them, but only the word which I speak to you that you shall do”. (Numbers 22:18-20 NKJV).
Many who had asked and prayed contrary to the word of God may be granted permissive will to go into such marriage relationship. But, God may warn others not to go into the marriage relationship, yet such persons may not hear because they had already made up their minds to contract such marriage. I advice every youth seeking for a life partner to ask, pray and seek the perfect will of God in marriage. It is the best for every heavenly citizen.

The use of ballot:
The use of fleece or ballot on two or more persons to determine who will be the suitable companion by the person who wants to get into marriage is wrong. It is true that Gideon used fleece as a sign to confirm that God was the person who gave him (Gideon) the commission to deliver his people who were being oppressed at that time by the midianites.

In this dispensation, there is no need for the use of fleece in seeking spiritual guidance because of the presence of the Holy Spirit, who is the greatest teacher, guide and counsellor, the word of God and marriage counsellors.
At that time of Gideon, the Holy Spirit was not fully available to all and the word of God was relatively scarce and there were no adequate counsellors, hence the use of fleece at that time of Gideon. At this time, it is therefore wrong to seek spiritual guidance in marriage through the use of fleece.

Prophecy or revelation through other persons:
Many people had got married to their spouses through what they call revelation or prophecy from their friends, pastors, prophets or apostles in their churches. Some of such marriages contracted in that way had hit the rock. Revelation of life partner through other persons is not an ideal method of spiritual guidance in choosing a life partner. Revelation or prophecy from others may only be a confirmation of what God had already revealed to the beneficiary, the person directly involved.
Many Christian youths had been deceived and lured into unplanned marriages through the use of prophecy and revelation of other christians especially among the pentecostal and evangelical churches. Therefore, you must take heed and beware of what the Bible says about Satan. “And no wonder! Satan himself transforms himself into an angel of Light” (2 Corinthians 11:14 NKJV).

It is important to note that the revelation of life partners through others could be very dangerous. Many old prophets had deceived men of God. An example is the historical event recorded for our learning in first kings.

“And he (man of God) said ‘I cannot return with you nor go in with you, neither can I eat bread nor drink water with you in this place. For I have been told by the word of the Lord ... He (old prophet) said to the man of God I too am a prophet as you are and an angel spoke to me by the word of the Lord saying, bring him back with you to your house, that he may eat bread and drink water,” (He lied to the man of God) (1 King 13: 15-20 NKJV).
So the man of God went back, he ate and drank, he met disaster in his life, he was devoured by a lion. What a great lesson we can learn from the idea of accepting and building on the prophecy and revelation of others. You must watch it.

Recommendation by friends and well wishers:
Recommendation of a girl as future life partner by friends and well wishers to a young man is a common practice in this part of the world. But it is a wrong method of spiritual guidance in choosing a life partner. Many of our young men who live in the cities often visit their country homes and inform their parents, friends, and well wishers that they are preparing to get married and settle down on their own, they mean business to get married as urgently as possible. The next thing is to introduce a girl of their choice to the young man as a very good and nice looking girl as a proposed life partner. The girl will not also know the background and spiritual build-up of the young man. This is not a godly method of choosing a life partner.

A young man from the city went to their home pastor during the Christmas period, he met the pastor of a particular local church and told him of his mission and readiness to get married, within a given period. The pastor of the local church fixed a date with the young man from the city, and invited three girls to the parsonage at a particular day.

While the young man from the city was with the pastor, the three girls came in, one after the other as they were all at the parsonage, the young man from the city was busy assessing the girls, looking at each of the young girls, after the session, the city young man then made a choice out of the three girls presented and arranged for him. The young city man wedded one of the girls, but the marriage lasted for only one year.

This is not the best way to choose a life partner, even if all girls are Christians. Read what the Bible says in the book of first Samuel. “...For the Lord does not see as a man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel16:7 NKJV).. For more information or Counseling on home, family life, marriage life or  parenting and choosing  life partner contact him  @ mail:pastorrolandenearu@yahoo.com or call + 2348084999199, +234 7033600002  visit: www.euniceroland.blogspot.com; www.pastorroland.blogspot.com; www.happyhomeandlife.blospot.com; www.facebook.com/Pst Roland Enearu; www.facebook.com/Pastor Dr Roland Enearu; www.facebook.com/Happy Home and Life Outreach; www.linkedin.com/Pastor Dr. Roland Enearu; www.twitter.com/Happy Home and Life1959Roland


Tuesday 7 July 2015

HAPPY HOME AND LIFE OUTREACH: Oh Sweet Mothers: Our Greatest Teachers

HAPPY HOME AND LIFE OUTREACH: Oh Sweet Mothers: Our Greatest Teachers: . Oh Sweet Mothers: Our Greatest Teachers                                                                    "Do not forsake the law o...

HAPPY HOME AND LIFE OUTREACH: Oh Sweet Mothers: Our Greatest Teachers

HAPPY HOME AND LIFE OUTREACH: Oh Sweet Mothers: Our Greatest Teachers: . Oh Sweet Mothers: Our Greatest Teachers                                                                    "Do not forsake the law o...

Oh Sweet Mothers: Our Greatest Teachers

. Oh Sweet Mothers: Our Greatest Teachers                                                                   "Do not forsake the law of your mother" (Proverbs 1:8).The law of your mother—unwritten, but indelibly stamped upon your mind! It's the law of love, of kindness, of selflessness, of giving!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Motherhood—just think of its blessings, joys, sorrows, challenges and triumphs. There's no greater ecstasy than holding her newborn, and no greater anguish than the broken heart a child may cause. A mother's love is the nearest thing on earth to God's love.                                                                                                                                                                      The wisdom of God is exhibited in motherhood. We are not the byproduct of some impersonal biological process. We were not made on an assembly line by the combination of chemicals. Our mothers nurtured us and formed an intimate relationship with us before we were born. She jeopardized her life for us. The greatest lessons we have ever learned have come from loving, caring, sacrificing mothers who were always available to us. . For more information or Counseling on home, family life, marriage life or  parenting and choosing  life partner contact him @ e-mail:pastorrolandenearu@yahoo.com or call + 234 8084999199, +234 7033600002  visit: www.euniceroland.blogspot.com; www.pastorroland.blogspot.com; www.happyhomeandlife.blospot.com; www.facebook.com/Pastor Dr Roland Enearu; www.facebook.com/Happy Home and Life Outreach; www.linkedin.com/Pastor Dr. Roland Enearu; www.twitter.com/Happy Home and Life1959Roland


Friday 22 May 2015

HAPPY HOME AND LIFE OUTREACH: Building Character

HAPPY HOME AND LIFE OUTREACH: Building Character: Building Character 1. Character and religion: Our character is not our religion, though our religious beliefs will affect our character...

HAPPY HOME AND LIFE OUTREACH: Building Character

HAPPY HOME AND LIFE OUTREACH: Building Character: Building Character 1. Character and religion: Our character is not our religion, though our religious beliefs will affect our character...

Character and Success

Character and Success:
It is true that social upliftment and success is determined by relationships. This is true simply because success depends on our ability to interact with other people. Since our relationships with others is determined by our character, then our success depends on how well we develop our characters. A good character helps us to get along with
our friends, our family, our business associates, and the people of our community. The better we get along with others, the more successful we will be.
                                                                                                                                                  When we maintain a proper relationship with others, we will be successful in life. But also, we will be a success in everything we do because others will gladly work and associate with us in our efforts to accomplish our goals for life. If you want to be a successful person, you must focus on developing your character. Learning to develop your character is an adventure in learning skills that makes us better people. It is a discovery in learning some of the most important principles that have ever been made concerning our purpose and work of life.                                                                      

Those who concentrate on developing qualities of character in their lives will be socially and economically uplifted in society. For this reason, it should be the goal of everyone to become a person who is known for having good character qualities. Jesus said, “I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly” (Jn 10:10). The fact that we want to have the abundant life about which Jesus spoke must motivate us to be the best we can be. Once we are motivated to develop good characters, we will discover that life is truly blessed for the one who wants to live in service to others. You must make it a goal of your life to discover character skills that will help you to be a better person.

          If there is righteousness in the heart, there will be beauty in character.
          If there is beauty in character, there will be harmony in the home.
          If there is harmony in the home, there will be order in the nation.
          If there is order in the nation, there will be peace in the world.
                                                                                                  A Chinese Proverb

For more information or Counseling on home, family life, marriage life or  parenting and choosing  life partner contact him @ e-mail:pastorrolandenearu@yahoo.com or call + 2348084999199, +234 7033600002,                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Whatsapp 08076699959                                                                                                          visit: www.euniceroland.blogspot.com; www.pastorroland.blogspot.com; www.happyhomeandlife.blospot.com