Husband the leader
of the family.
God placed man in a strategic and unique position in
the family. The man occupies the strategic position as husband, father of his
children, the head and leader of the home. The principles of good leadership
applies, whether you are in a position to lead large or small size family and
the pitfall of bad home leader can trip you up whether you run a large or small
size family.
This article will refresh your soul and remind you
what leadership is all about. They point out the character traits that are
necessary to be a leader of home that people will want to follow. This will
encourage you to walk in the path towards your dream, bringing other member of
the family with you as you go on marriage life journey.
1. DO THE
COMMON THINGS UNCOMMONLY WELL FOR YOUR PARTNER AND CHILDREN.
The little but common things done in love and
sincerity of heart by the man for the member of the family will go along way to
foster relationship and happiness in the home. It is like a healing balm. The
bible says:
“Do you see any
truly competent worker?
they will serve kings rather than ordinary
people”
Proverbs 22: 22
The secret of success
is to do the common things
uncommonly well”. Dr eugene swearingen
The head of the
home should not let any obstacle stop him from reaching his goals for the
family. Persistence
and patience produce position results. A leader doesn’t allow any obstacle to
stop him from reaching his goals.
2.
KEEP MOVING FORWARD
The man (the husband) as the head of the
family must be moving forward and encourage other member of the family to do
same. Husband is to move forward spiritually, financially educationally and
socially. You must not be stagnant. Look out for the way and means you improve
yourself. Being devoted to God and practice His presence, improve on your
education level this will enable you to change your job and improve your takes
home or establish a small scale business that could bring in more money and
even employ others. The bible says:
“Lazy people want much but get little, but
those who work hard will prosper and be satisfied” Proverbs 13:4
“The
way to get to the top is to get off your bottom”
A
leader isn’t leading if he is not moving forward. I say you must move forward
in the name of Jesus.
3. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER… GIVE UP
Never
think of giving up the marriage relationship in spite of BIG problem in the
marriage. Our true potential for the development of the family will remain
asleep unless rudely woken up by BIG problems. The bible says:
“So don’t of doing what is good, don’t get
discouraged and give up, for we will reap a harvest of blessing at the
appropriate time” Galatians 6:19
Never, never,
never…Give up.
-Winston Churchill
Alarm clock wake up ordinary men; but only
trouble or problem can wake up sleeping giants! Trouble or problem is the only
key that unlock the potential time”.
-Lawrence
Akapa
Trouble
or problem should be seen as a means of promotion or elevation if we never,
never, give up .
4. ENCOURAGE YOUR SPOUSE IN HER PROFESSION,
VOCATION OR TRADE
Behavioral
researchers have discovered that when people enjoy their work and feel it is
meaningful, they are more productive, more open to improvement and are more
concerned about the quality of their work. As their levels of productivity and
quality rise, they become more efficient and actually begin to earn more either
through promotions, pay rise or broader customer base. As their income increases,
they tend to enjoy their work and marriage
For a
man to be an effective partner and leader in the house he must find pleasure in
his spouse to do same. For something you sincerely enjoy doing, follow your
marriage and career. The Bible says:
“You will enjoy the fruit of
your labor. How happy will be:
How rich your life. Psalm 128:2
To love what you do and feel that it matter how could
anything be more fun?
-Arnold
Bennett
5. DON’T ABANDOM ANY PROJECT
A man should learn how to start and finish
all projects as much as it lies within the man as the head of the family. The
project could either be personal, household, or family projects.
I read
about the Brooklyn Bridge (which links Brook to Manhattan Island)
as one of the famous bridges in the world. At the time it was first conceived
in 1883, however, bridge-building expert throughout the world told the
designer, a creative engineer whose name was John Roebling, that his idea would
not work. Roebling convinced his Washington,
who was also had merit. The two of them develop the concept, resolved the
problem others had forecasted and enthusiastically hired a crew to build their
bridge. After only a few months of building, a tragic accident occurred on
site, which took John’s life and severely injured Washington, who became unable
to walk and talk. Everyone thought that the project would have to be ones who
knew the dynamics of building the bridge. Washington, however, could still think and
he had a burning desire to see the bridge finished. As he had an idea. He would
communicate with the engineers by using one finger to tap out in code on his
wife’s arm what he wanted her to tell them. Washington tapped out his instruction for
thirteen year until the bridge was built!
Apostles Paul “I have fought a
good fight, I have finished my course….”
-2 Timothy 4:7
“The test of
first-rate work is that you finished it.”
- Katherin Graham
Don’t
let one success keep you from pressing on to bigger and better things.
As a
man constantly set new goal for your self and for the family toward building
happy and successful marriage
“A little extra sleep; a little more
slumber, a little folding of the hands to
rest
– and poverty will pounce on you like a bandit, scarcity will attack you
like
an armed robber. -Proverbs 24:33, 34
Laziness travels so slowly, that poverty so overtake him
-Lillian Dickson
9.MAKE PERSONAL SACRIFIES
Jesus
Christ, the head of the church willingly offered Himself as a sacrifice for the
redemption of the church. Likewise, Husband as the head of the family are
expected to make personal sacrifice for the marriage and the family. The
personal sacrifices may not be valued in monetary term but more precious than
gold and silver. Such sacrifices includes but not limited to finance comfort,
time , peace happiness, conveniences, safety, security, prestige and honor at
the alter of love .
The
Bible says:
“….For your life is like
the morning for its here a little with, then it’s gone
James 4:14
“Life is a coin, you can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only
“Life is a coin, you can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only
spend it once” -cervantes
personal sacrifice is to a partner. It bring
hope and encouragement to weary the partner. It produces growth and maturity.
There is no true leadership or headship without some kinds of sacrifice
10. BE DILIGENT
The
opposite of diligences is not negligence. As a man and the head of the home,
you should make sure that you take care of routine tasks, follows normal
procedures and expect your household to do what is expected in vacation or
trade. Whereby the man is negligent, the cost may be too enormous to bear, this
may includes loss of partner, loss of house wares, disaster; it may also effect
safety, security, or comfort of the home or others.
The
bible says: “…The hand of the diligent
makes rich”. Proverb 10:4(NKJV)
(TO BE
CONTINUED)
God
created man and gave him a position of authority, honour, glory, and responsibility
in the family which man must learn, realize and put them into practice. This is
the reason for the publication of this article. It was taken from book titled *501
Hints to Making your Spouse your Best Friend. Written by Pastor Dr. Roland
Enearu. PLEASE CONTACT US, or click like if you desire
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