101 TIPS FOR LOVING AND CHERING YOUR SPOUSE

 1:        COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR SPOUSE REGULARLY:

 Keep Talking.

COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR PARTNER, NEVER CLOSE YOUR SPOUSE OUT. ''

And they talked together of all these things which had happened”. Luke 24:14 NKJV''

 Either be silent, or speak words that are better than silence''.

Pythagoras We communicate either by words, action or signs depending on the prevailing

 circumstance. - Author

 ''Action speaks louder than voice''. Anonymous

2. REGARD YOUR SPOUSE AS IMPORTANT

''Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they

 fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he fall, for he has no one to help him up''. Ecclesiastics 4:9, 10

''The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for a man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him'' Genesis 2:18 NIV

''For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh''. Genesis 2:24 NIV

3. DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO UNDERSTAND YOUR SPOUSE'S FEELINGS.

''Then Elkanah her husband said to her ‘Hannah, why do you weep? Why you not eat?

Am I not better than ten sons?'' 1 Samuel 1:8

''So Ahab went home, sullen and angry because Naboth the Jezreelite had said, ''I will not give you the inheritance of my fathers.” He lay on his bed sulking and refused to eat,

His wife Jezebel came in and asked him, why are you so sullen? Why won't you eat?

 1 Kings 21:4,5

4. BE INTERESTED IN YOUR SPOUSE’S FRIENDS

''Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are''. Anonymous

“Knowing your spouse friends will help you to understand your spouse better”. -Author

5. ASKYOUR SPOUSE'S OPINION FREQUENTLY

“Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent”.

- Eleanor Roosevelt

The real black, diabolical pride, come when you look down on others so much that you do

not care what they think of you”. C S Lewis, Mere Christianity

6.   VALUE WHATYOUR SPOUSE SAYS           

A word spoken by you to your when your conscience is clear and your heart is full of God’s spirit is worth ten thousand words spoken in unbelief and sin”. - Robert Murray M’ Chey

7. LET YOUR SPOUSE FEELYOURAFFECTION

''Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor, give preference to

one another''. - Romans 12:10

''Most people would rather get than give affection''. - Aristotle, Nicomachçan Ethics

''Affection hides three times as many virtues as Charity does sins''. -Horad Mann

''Affection has no price - Jerome Letter 3

8. PROTECT YOUR SPOUSE ON DAILY BASIS

Protect your spouse from dangers daily. Protect your spouse against criticism from Family members/relations, neighbours and friends

9. BE GENTLE AND TENDER WITH YOUR SPOUSE

“And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another even as God in Christ

forgave you”.  -Ephesians 4:32 NKJV

“Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand” - Philippians 4:5 NKJV

“He who is gentle remembers good rather than evil, the good one has received rather than

 the good one has done. - Aristotle

“Gentleness does more than violence” - La fontaince

“Nothing is as strong as gentle, nothing as gentle as real strength. - Francis de sales

10. DEVELOP A SENSE OF HUMOR TOWARDS YOUR SPOUSE

“True humor spring not more from the head than from the heart; it is not contempt, its essence is love”. - Thomas Carlyle “Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing”. -Mark Twain

''Laughter is a bodily exercise precious to health''. - It better benefits a man to laugh at life than to lament over it''. -Seneca

''That day is the most utterly wasted in which one has not laughed''.-Chamfort

11. AVOID SUDDEN MAJOR CHANGES WITHOUT DISCUSSION AND WITHOUT

GIVING YOUR SPOUSE TIME TO ADJUST

''The wise man changes his mind, the fool never''. - Spanish Proverb

''I pity that man who, proud of his system, says my ideas have not changed for thirty years; 1 am what 1 was; I love what I loved’. The ridiculous man is he who never changes'

- Barthelemy

''Love slay what we have been that we may be what we were not'' - Augustine of Hippo

12. LEARN TO RESPOND OPENLY AND VERBALLY

WHEN YOUR SPOUSE WANTSTO COMMUNICATE

''The character of man is known from his conservation''. - Menander

''He who speaks without modesty will find it difficult to make his words good''.-

Cononfucius Analects

13. COMFORT YOUR SPOUSE WHEN HE/SHE IS DOWN EMOTIONALLY

''For instance put your arms around her and silently hold for a few seconds without a word or admonish your partner from the Holy Scriptures''.

This is my comfort in my afflictions, for your word has given me life''. Psalm 119:50 NKJV Comfort, yes comfort my people! Speak comfort to Jerusalem and cry out to  her that her warfare is ended, that her inquity is pardoned; for she has  received from the Lord’s hard double for all her sins''. - Isaiah 40:1, 2

''His master piece was in comforting wounded conscience''. Thomas Fuller Church History of Britain, writing of the Puritan, Minister Richard Grenham.

14. BE A PERSON OF INTEGRITY

''As for you, if you walk before me in integrity of heart and uprightness, as David your

 father did, and do all I command and observe my decree and laws, I will establish your

 royalb throne over Israel forever, as I promised David your father''

''Then the Lord said to Satan, have you considered my servant Job? There is no-one on earth like him; he is blameless and Upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil. And he still maintain his integrity though you  incited me against him to ruin him without any reason''.- Job 2:3 NIV

15.   BE INTERESTED IN WHAT YOUR SPOUSE FEELS IS IMPORTANT IN LIFE AND GODLY

''Believe God's word and power more than you believe your own feelings and experiences'' - Samuel Rutherford

16. CORRECT YOUR SPOUSE GENTLY, TENDENCY AND WITH COURTESY

''People who listen when they are corrected will live, but those who will not admit that

they are wrong are in danger''. - Proverbs 10:17

''Better to correct someone in the open than to let him think you don't care for him

at all''.- Proverbs 27:5 It is better to have wise people reprimand you than to have stupid

people sing your praises - Ecclesiastes 7:5

17. BE A TEACHABLE PARTNER. WITHOUT PUTTING YOUR DEFENCES

''To teach is to learn'' - Japanese proverbs

''A teacher affect eternity'' - Henry Adams

'' It is allowable to learn even from an enemy”- Latin proverb

''From the errors of others a wise man (woman) correct his (her) own”.- Phililius Syrus

''Unless we accept lifelong learning as a habit, We 're shortening our lives''.- Author unknown

18. MAKE SPECIAL TIME AVAILABLE FOR YOUR SPOUSE ANDYOUR CHILDREN

''A thousand year to you are like one day; they are like yesterday, alread gone'' Psalm 90:4

''One grain of time’s inestimated sand is worth a golden mountain; Let us not lose it.

- Roger Williams

''I recommend you to take care of the minutes; For hours will take care of themselves''

 - Chesterfied, letter to his son November 6, 1747

''The value of life is computed not by its duration. But by its donation''.- Williams James

19. BE TRUSTWORTHY

''He who does not trust enough will not be trusted'' - Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

''Now it is required! That those who have been given a trust must prove faithful''.

- Apostle Paul (1 Corinthians 4:2)

20. COMPUMENT YOUR SPOUSE OFTEN

''And the Lord God said, 'it isn't good for a man to be alone; I will make a companion for

 him, a helper Suited to his needs''. - Genesis 2:18

21. BE CREATIVE WHEN YOU EXPRESS YOUR LOVE EITHER IN WORDS OR

 ACTIONS

''There is a fountain of youth. It is your mind, your talents. The creativity you bring in

your life and the lives of people You love... Today, women are doing   things that their

mothers would never have dreamed of doing. I consider myself very fortunate to be living

in a time when there is always a future for a woman no matter what her age'' Sophia Loren

22. HAVE SPECIFIC FAMILY GOAL FOR EACH OTHER

''Plan carefully what you do, and whatever you do will turn out right''.- Proverbs 4:26

''Will a person gain anything if he wins the whole word but loses his life? Of   ourse not!

There is nothing he can gain regain his life'' -Jesus Christ (Matthew 16:26)

“First build a proper goal. That proper goal will make it almost automatic, to build a

proper you”. - Goethe

23. LET YOUR PARTNER BUY THINGS CONSIDERS NECESSARY

''She considers a field and buys it out of her earning she plants a vineyard''.

- Proverbs 31:16 NIV

24. FORGIVE WHEN YOUR PARTNER OFFENDS YOU

''If you want people like you forgive them when they wrong you.''

- Proverbs 17:9 ''You must forgive one another just as the Lord has forgiven you''. -Apostle Paul Colossians 3:13

''To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it''- Confucius ''The noble

vengeance is to forgive''. - Proverb

25. SHOW YOUR SPOUSE HI HER NEEDS ARE YOU RS

No one should be looking to his own interest, but to the interest of others”.- Apostle Paul I Corinthians 10:24

'I am to become a Christ to my neighbour and be for him what Christ is for me''.

 - Martin Luther

  Anyone taking up his neighbour's load, willing to use his higher position for the benefit of one who is not as well off, giving what he has been given by God to those who need it,

becomes a god to his neighbour, and imitates God''.- Epistle to Diognetus

26. ACCEPT YOUR PARTNER THE WAY HE/SHE IS; DISCOVER YOUR SP        OUSE UNIQUENESS AS SPECIAL

        ''Just as I am, thou wilt receive will welcome, pardon, cleanse, relieve...''\

           - Charlotte Elliot

        ''I take God the father to be my God; I take God the son to be my saviour;

         I take Holy Ghost to be my sanctifier. I take the word of God to be my     rule; I take the people of God (spouse) to be my people''.

- Act of commitment taught to Matthew Henry by his father

27. ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES; DO NOT BE AFRAID TO BE HUMBLE

 ''There is no one on earth who does what is rigid but never makes a mistake''

- Ecclesiastes 7:20

''A life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable. but more useful than a life

spent doing nothing''. - George Bernard Shaw, The Doctor of Dilemma

''and probably he who never made a discovery''. - Samuel Smiles Self-Help

28. LEAD YOUR FAMILY IN THE SPIRITUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD THROUGH

JESUS CHRIST OUR LORD

       ''One day spent in your temple is better than a thousand anywhere else; I would rather stand at the gate of the house of my God than live in the homes of the wicked'.-Psalm 84:10

''To believe God (Through our Lord Jesus Christ) Is to worship God''- Martin Luther

29. DO NOT OPENLY CRITICISE YOUR LIFE PARTNER WHEN HE/SHE FAILS, BUT

DISCUSS WHAT WENT WRONG AND COMFORT YOUR SPOUSE.

''Someone who holds back the truth causes trouble, but one who is open work for peace''.

Proverbs 10:10

''Criticism comes easier than craftsmanship'' - Zeuxis, quoted in Pliny the Elder, Natural History“Most of us would rather be ruined by praise than being help by criticism” -Author

30. REMAIN FLEXIBLE

31. TAKE TIME FOR THE IWO OF YOU TO SIT AND TALK CALMLY

“We cannot always oblige but we can always speak obligingly”.- Voltaire

“Be careful what you say and protect your life.

“A careless talker destroys himself”.

Proverbs 13

“If you want to stay out of trouble, be careful what you say”.

- Proverbs 21:23

32. KEEPING YOURSELF IN GOOD PHYSICAL CONDITION

33. KEEP YOURSELF IN GOOD PHYSICAL CONDITION

34.  WRITE YOUR LIFE PARTNER A LETTER OCCASIONALLY, TELLING HIM/HER

 HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM/HER

“Everyone reveals his own soul in his letters. In every form of composition it is possible to

discern the writer’s character, but in non so clearly as the epistolar”. - Demetrius, on style

34. INCREASE YOUR RESPONSIBLY TO YOUR SPOUSE.

35. EXPRESS HOW MUCH YOU APPRECIATE YOUR PARTNER

“To appreciate is a wonderful thing: it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as

 well”. - Voltaire

“Expression of appreciation can be either in words or in giving or both”. - Author

36.MAINTA1N OPENNESS AND W1LLINGNESS YIELD TO YOUR SPOUSE

37.GIVE ADVICE IN A LOVING WAY WHEN YOUIU ASK FOR IT

“Stupid people always think they are right Wise people listen to advice”.

 Proverbs 12:15 “He who can take advice is sometimes superior to him who can get it”.

 - Kal Von Knebel

“No gift is more precious than good advice”. - Erasmus

38.DEFEND YOUR LIFE PARTNER BEFORE OTHERS

“...Defend me from my enemies, protect from my enemies, protect me from those who have come to destroy me”

- Psalm 59:1

39. PREFER YOUR SPOUSE TO ALL OTHERS

“Love each other with brotherly affection and take delight in honouring (preferring) each

other - Apostle Paul (Romans 12:10) “Preference must be expressed in words, action or

 in deed - Author

40. CAREFULLY CONSIDER WHAT YOUR SPOUSE SAYS WITHOUT REACTING TO

HIM/HER

 41. PRAY FOR YOUR SPOUSE TO ENJOY GOD’S BEST IN LIFE

  Pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a  righteous man has great power and wonderful results.

- Apostle James James 5:16

     “Pray without ceasing” - Apostle Paul 1 Thess 5:17

42. TAKE TIME TO NOTICE WHAT YOUR LIFE PARTNER HAS DONE FOR YOU AND THE FAMILY

“Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm”.

- Ralph Waldo Emeron, Essay Circles

“Those who believe that they are exclusively in the right are generally those    who achieve something” - Aldous Huxley

 43. KEEP THE IMAGINATION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP ALIVE

44. SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS TOGETHER

“Most people think no more than twice or three times a year, I have become rich and

famous by thinking twice Ur three times a week”. - George Barnard Shaw

“Our thoughts can help us more than doctors and harm us more than brickbats”.

 - Anonymous

45. TELLYOUR SPOUSE ABOUT YOUR JOB IF HE/SHE INTERESTED

  “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss, and happening; small minds discuss,

 people and things”. - Anonymous

46. TAKE TIME TO SEE HOW YOUR LIFE PARTNER SPENDS HIS/HER DAY, AT

WORK, AT HOME OR ELSEWHERE

“A thing worth having is never obtained without hard word”.- Demophilus

“If any would not work, neither should he eat”.

- Apostle Paul 2 Thess 5:17 AV

47. UNDERSTAND YOUR SPOUSE PHYSICAL LIMITATIONS IF YOU HAVE SO MANYTHINGS TO DO

   “...He (God) said, “Look if they are able to accomplish all this when they have just began to exploit their linguistic and political unity, just think of what they will do later! Nothing

 will be unattainable for them”.

- Genesis 11:6

48. DISCIPLINE THE CHILDREN IN LOVE, NOT IN ANGER

“Train up a child in the way he should go. And when he is old be will not depart from it” - Proverbs 22:6 NKJV “Train your child in the way which You know you should have gone yourself”. - C H Spurgoen

49. HELP YOUR SPOUSE TO FINISH HIS/GER GOALS, HOBBIES, EDUCAIION OR

CAREER

“A written down goal, is some way no one yet understand, tends to attract every

 ingredients it needs to realize it’. - Anonymous

“People are like button, unattached, unless attached, indispensable. People, unattached to a goal, unless attached, men with missions” - Anonymous

50. TREAT YOUR SPOUSE AS IF GOD HAS STAMPED ON HIS/HER FOREHEAD “HANDLE WITH CARE”.

“Christianity has taught us to care. Caring is the greatest thing, caring matters most”.

 - Fredrick Von Hugel, Letters from Baron Von Hugel to his Niece

“Assuredly nobody will care for him/her who cares for nobody” - Thomas Jefferson

“We should help others by deed, not words”. - Latin Proverbs

51. GET RID OF YOUR HABITS AND ATTITUDES THAT ANNOY YOUR SPOUSE

“Good habits are hard to acquire but easy to live with. Bad habits are easy to acquire but

 hard to live with”. - Author unknown

The strength of a man’s virtue should not be measured by his special exertio   but by his

habitual acts”. - Blaise Pascal

“First we build our habits then our habits build us” - Author unknown

“Who is strong? He that can conquer his bad habits”. - Benjamin Franklin, Poor Richard’s Almanac 1744

 52. BE GENTLE, CARING AND THOUGHTFUL OF YOUR SPOUSE’S RELATIVES

“He who sustain God’s creatures is as though he has created them”.

- Tahuma

“It is our care for the helpless our pi of loving kindness, that brans us in the eyes of many

 of our opponents. ‘Look!’ They say. ‘How they love one another!   Look how they are

prepared to die for one another. - Tertullian

“It is a kingly task, believe me, help the afflicted”. - Ovid

 53. CLEAR UPYOUR PAST OFFENCES TOWARD HIM/HER

54. THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR THINGS HE/SHE HAS DONE WITHOUT EXPECTING

 AN IN RETURN

“The person wt has stopped being thankful has fallen asleep in life”.

- Robert Lious Steveson./  “Let gratitude for the past inspire us with trust for the future

 - Francois Fenelon

55. HUSBAND - DO NOT EXPECT A BAND TO PLAY WHENEVERYOUHELP WITH

THE HOUSE WORK

“Usually we praise only to be praised”. - La Rochefoucauld

56.       REMAIN A CHALLENGE TO YOUR SPOUSE

57.       USE YOUR NATURAL ATTRACTIVE QUALITIES

58.       DISCOVERYOUR SPOUSE FEARS IN LIFE

“There is no fear in love; Perfect love drives out all fear”. -1 John 4:18

“Yea, though I walk through the valley of shadow of death, I will fearno evil”

 - Psalm 23:4 (AV)

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” - Franklin Delano Rooselvelt

59. SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO TO ELIMINATE YOUR PARTNER’S FEARS

‘Courage faces fear and hereby masters it. Cowardice represses fear and is hereby

mastered by it”, - Luther King. Fear closes ears of the mind”. - Sallust

60.       DISCOVERYOUR SPOUSE SEXUAL NEEDS

“Do not deny yourselves unless you first agree to do so for a while in order to spend your time in prayer; but then resume normal marital relations”.- Apostle Paul 1 Corinthians 7:5

61. ASK IF YOUR LIFE PARTNER WANTS TO DISCUSS HOWYOU CAN MEET

 HIS/HER SEXUAL NEEDS

Enjoy life with the woman you love, as long as you live the… the life that God has given

you in this world”. - Ecclesiastes 9:9

61. FIND OUT WHAT MAKES YOUR LIFE PARTNER

“I give them eternal life, and they shall never die. No one can snatch them away from me. What my father has given me is greater than everything,N and  no one can snatch them

away from the father’s care” Jesus Christ John 10:28-29

63.       PLAN YOUR FUTU RE TOGETHER

      “Two can accomplish more than twice as much as one, for the results can be much

better. If one falls, the other pulls him up; but if a man falls when he is alone, he’s in

trouble. Also, on a cold night two under the same blanket gain warmth from each Other,

but how can one be warm alone?”. Ecclesiastes 4:9-11

64.       DO NOT QUARREL OVER WORDS, BUT TRY TO FIND HIDDEN MEANINGS

‘Our words are a faithful index of the state of the souls”. Francis De Sales “Words are

indeed quite indifferent modes of the divine energy. Words are    also action, and actions

 are a kind of words”, - Ralph Waldo Emerson

65. PRACTICE COMMON COURTESIES LIKE HOLDING THE DOOR FORYOUR

SPOUSE

“Of courtesy it is much less than courage of heart or holiness, yet in my walks it seems to

 me that the grace of God is in courtesy”. - Hilaire Belloc

66. ASK YOUR SPOUSE IF YOU HAVE OFFENDED HIM/HER SEXUALLY IN ANYWAY “The truth is like the light to sore eyes… he who never offended anyone, never

did anyone any good”. - Diogenes

67. ASK YOUR LIFE PARTNER IF HE/SHE IS JEALOUS OF ANYONE

   “Peace of mind makes the body health, but jealously is like a cancer”.- Proverbs 14:30

  “Jealousy sees with opera glasses, making little things big; dwarfs are changed into giants and suspicious into truths. - Cervantes

68. SEE IF YOUR LIFE PARTNER IS UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT THE WAY MONEY

 IS SPENT

    “If you love money, you will never be satisfied, if you long to be rich, you will never get all you want. It is unless”. - Ecclesiastes 5:10

69. GENTLY TEACH YOUR PARTNER BY SHARING YOUR FEELINGS

70. ATTACK AND CONQUER TRAGEDIES AS A COUPLE NOT AS INDIVIDUALS

71.       PUT YOUR ARM AROUNDYOUR PARTNER IN FRONT OF FRIENDS

 “…Sometime later, King Abimelech, King Philistines, looked out of a windo   and saw Isaac and Rabekah making love. - Genesis 26:8

72. TELL YOUR LIFE PARTNER YOU LOVE HIM/HER OFTEN

   “Confession is good for the soul”. - Scottish Proverb

..and by confession of praise, let your whole life confess him (her)”.- Bernard of Clair Vaux

73. MAKE IMPORTANT DECIS1ONS TOGETHER

74.N LEARN HOW TO ENJOY SHOPPING

“Who has ear, let him hear; who has money let him spend it”.- Goethe

75. TEACH EACH OTHER WHAT ONE ENJOYS DOING

 “What we learn to do, we learn by doing” - Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics “Improve

yourself by others’ experience; so shall you quickly acquire what others; labour long for”

. - Socrates

76. GIVE YOUR LIFE PARTNER A   SPECIAL GIFT FROM TIME TO TIME

        “They bought out their gift of gold, frankincense, and myrrh, and presented to him''. Matthew 2:11

 “We make living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give”.- Winston Churchill

“Abundant giving brings abundant living”.- Proverbs

77. SHARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES AROUND THE HOUSE

 Some grow under responsibility, other swell” - Anonymous

“Liberty means responsibility. That is why most men dread it”.- George Bernard Shaw

 78. HUSBAND - DO NOT BELITTLE YOUR WIFE’S FEMININE CHARACTERISTICS

      ‘Find a wife and you find a good thing; it shows that the Lord is good to you”.

- Proverbs 18:22

  “No one knows like a woman to say things that are at once gentle and deep- Victor Hugo

79. LET THE SPOUSE EXPRESS HIMSELF/HERSELF FREELY, WITHOUT FEAR OF

BEING CALLED STUPID, FOOLISH OR ILLOGICAL

“Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of a joy you must have somebody to

 share it with”. Mark Twain

80. CAREFULLY CHOOSE YOUR WORDS, ESPECIALLY WHEN ANGR

  “Never forget what a man says to you when he/she is angry”. - Henry Ward Beecher

 “Everything a man (woman does in anger will in the end be found to have been done

wrong” - Menander “Anger is a shor madness'' - Horace Pistles

81. GIVE YOUR SPOUSE SPECIAL TIME TO BE ALONE OR WITH FRIENDS

    “A friend is a second self - Latin proverb

     “A faithful friend is an image of God”. - French Proverb

      “True friendship ought never to conceal what it thinks” - Jerome

    “Take time to things right” - Mike Murdock

       Friends differ. Pinpoint those who truly stimulate you… Educate you…   

placate you - Mike Murdock

82.       BUY WHAT SHE CONSIDERS AS AN INTIMATE GIFT

         “Spend and God will send”. - Proverb

        “Do not give, as many rich men do, like a hen that lay an egg, and then cockles.- Henry Ward Beecher, Proverbs from a Plymouth pupit”

“Evaluate your special gifts and abilities”. - Mike Murdock

83.       READ A BOOK YOUR SPOUSE RECOMMENDS TO YOU

     “Show me an army of leaders and I’ll show you an army of readers”. - Napoleon

       “Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body -Richard Steele, the father, No 147

       “Read to refill the well of inspiration”. - Harold J. Ockenga

 84. SHOW YOUR SPOUSE LASTING LOVE

       “Love of God is the root, love of our neighbour (spouse) the fruit of the tree of life.

Neither can exist without the other, but the one is cause and   the other effect”.

 - William Temple, Reading in St John’s Gospel

       “He who loves, trusts” - C. S. Lewis

85. WRITE YOUR SPOUSE A POEM ABOUT HOW SPECIAL HE/SHE IS

     “If I had my life again, I would have made a rule to read some poetry and listen to some music at least once every week; for perhaps the part of brain atrophied would thus have

 kept active through us. - Charles Dawin

 “Reading maketh a full man (woman) conference a ready man, and writing an exact

  man (woman)” - Francis Bacom, Essay of studies

 “The spoken word perishes, but the written letter abides”. - Latin Proverb

86. DO NOT CRITICIZE YOUR LIFE PARTNER IN THE PRESENCE OF OTHERS

“Most of us would rather be ruined by praise than help by criticism”.- Author unknown

 “Criticism comes easier than craftsmanship” - Zuxis, quoted in Pliny the Elder Natural

History

“Stupid people always think they are right. Wise people listen to advice”- Proverbs 12:15

“An intelligent persons learn more from one rebuke than a fool learns from being beaten a hundred times” - Proverbs 15:22

87. DO NOT LET YOUR LIFE- PARTNER SEE YOU BECOMEEXCITED ABOUT THE

PHYSICAL FEATURES OF ANOTHER OPPOSITE SEX, IF THAT BOTHERS HIM/HER

“Judge not according to the appearance”.- Jesus Christ (John 7:24 AV)

“Don’t rely too much on label, for too often they are feeble”.- C. H. Surgeon

88.       BE SENSITIVE TO YOUR LIFE PARTNER’S NEED

“Faithful spouse must strive to meet the need of his (her) partner” - Author

 “There must be a clear distinction between need and want in practice” - Author

89. HUSBAND - LETYOUR FAMILY KNOW YOU WANT SPEND SPECIALT1ME WITH

 THEM

 “Time is a gift of God, which must be spent wisely”.- The author

“One grain of time’s inestimable sand is worth a golden mountain; let us not lose it”.

- Roger Williams

“The value of life is computed not by its duration, but by it’s donation.- Williams James

90. UNDERSTAND YOUR OWN PERSONALITY TRA1T AND YOUR SPOUSE’S

91. BE SYMPATHETIC WHEN YOUR SPOUSE IS SICK

 “Sympathy is your pain in my heart”- Anonymous

“Next to love, sympathy is the divinest passion of the human heart”. - Edmund Burke

92.       CALL YOUR SPOUSE WHEN YOU ARE GOING TO BE LATE

“I am sorry we’re late we missed the timetable. But there-nobody’s infallible

- Geoffery Fisher to John XXII,

On the occasion of the first meeting of an Archbishop of canterbury with a Pope since

before reformation

93.  DO NOT DISAGREE WITH YOUR SPOUSE IN THE PRESENCE OF YOUR

CHILDREN

94. THE FAMILY SHOULD GO R A DINNER IN ANY OF THE WEEKENDS OR

HOLIDAYS

“Leisure is the mother of philosophy”.

- Thomas Hobbes, Leviathan

95. HUSBAND - DO THE “LITILE THINGS” SHE NEEDS FROM TIME TO TIME BE

WILLING TO ADMIT WHENYOU ARE WRONG

     “You will never succeed in life if you try to hid your wrongs (sins) confess them and give them up; then God will show mercy to you.- Proverbs 28:13

“A petition for pardon is in itself a full confession. because he who begs for pardon fully

admits his guilt”.- Tertullian on prayer

96.HUSBAND - DO NOT COERCE YOUR SPOUSE INTO AN ARGUMENT

98.DO NOT MAKE SARCASTIC COMMENTS ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE

 “The spoken word cannot be recalled - Proverb

“If you want to stay out of trouble, be careful what you say”:-Proverbs 21:23

99. BE HONEST TO YOURSPOUSE

 “No legacy is so rich as honesty” - Williams Shakespeare

 “Honesty is the first chapter of the book of wisdom” - Thomas Jefferson

100.BE TRUTHFUL TO YOUR SPOUSE

“Where truth is, there is God”.- Cervantes

“Be so true to thyself as thou be not false to others”.- Francis Bacon, Essay of Wis4om for a man’s self

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