Facts about Single life

Facts about Single life                                                                                                  Many singles are ashamed of being referred to as singles because they lack the understanding of the blessing of the single life state: the facts of singleness are enumerated herein:

      I.        Singleness is not a sin

    II.        Singleness is not a curse

   III.        Singleness is not a sickness

  IV.        Singleness is not a problem

   V.        Singleness is not a barrier or limitation.                                                                                      

The truth about singleness is that it is a gift from God and it has its grace, which are:

              I.        You can be single and be solid

            II.        You can be single and be sound

           III.        You can be single and be successful

          IV.        You can be single and be whole

           V.        You can be single and be fulfilled

          VI.        You can be single and be useful and helpful to the work of God.

SINGLES: ALONE BUT NOT LONELY

Singles in this context refers to the group of people who are not married.  It includes the
teenagers, youths, single parents and those who are in courtship.  They are said to be alone because they do not have a life partner or a companion to share their thoughts and feelings with; while loneliness is referred to as the sadness resulting from a feeling of being alone, or lack of friends or companionship.

                       

Sunday Punch of January 6, 2008, in its article titled: Singles, You Can Overcome Loneliness, reported of a lady, a bank marketer who confessed to be lonely especially after work, “I would watch television, in fact, there is no film I have not watched and I spend a lot of money recharging my phone because I am always calling some friends and would chat into the night: Really this is not the kind of life I want.  I need someone special that I can share my thoughts with and feel secured.

A large percentage of singles are lonely because they believe they don't have that special some one in their lives. They become depressed, withdrawn, discouraged, frustrated and less interested in those around them.

Robert Weiss, a researcher diagnosed loneliness.  To him we do not need 10,000 people: we need just one special person.  He calls that person our attachment figure, someone who gives us a sense of security or reassurance that we can face the world again.  He refers to this type of loneliness of emotional isolation.

The effects of loneliness are:

l    Sleeps more than necessary

l    Eating more than necessary

l    Overweight and out of shape

l    Poor job performance

l    Changing of normal behaviour

l    Overeating in certain issues

l    Spending more time in watching TV or and listening to radio

l    Takes some drugs before going to bed

l    Indulging in sexual immorality

l    Preoccupying with evil thought.

SINGLES: Alone but not lonely:

Ten Tips for overcoming loneliness….

1.      Once you have Jesus in your life you will             always have His company and love.  Jesus said, “I will not abandon you as orphans - I will come to you.” John 14:18.

2.      Though earthly companionship may fail, the Lord will never fail.  “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” Psalm 27:10.

3.      Sometimes the Lord let us feel lonely to drive us closer to Him.  “Whom have I in heaven but you?  I desire you more than anything on earth.  My health may fail and my spirit may grow weak, but God remains the strength of my heart; he is mine forever…. But as for me, how good it is to be near God.  I have made the sovereign Lord my shelter and I will tell everyone about the wonderful things You do.” Psalm 74:25-28.

4.      Christ was abandoned by His closest followers that night in the garden of Gethsemane.  “All the disciples forsook Him and fled.” Mat 25:56b).

5.      Even Jesus felt and feels lonely.  “That is why we have a great High Priest who has gone to heaven, Jesus the Son of God.  Let us cling to Him and never stop trusting Him.  This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for He faced all of the same temptations as we do, yet He did not sin.  So let us come boldly to the Throne of our gracious God.  There we will receive His mercy and we will find grace to help us when we need it.” Heb 4:14-16.

6.      Making an effort and taking the initiative to reach out to others and be a friend is an antidote for loneliness.  Three of Job's friends…. When they heard of the tragedy he had suffered, they got together and traveled from their homes to comfort and console him. (Job 2:11).

7.      Fellowship with others can be strengthening.  “Jonathan (Saul's son) went to find David and encourage him to stay strong in his faith in God… Don't be afraid.  Jonathan reassured him, my father will never find you…” I Sam 23:16-17a.

8.      Winning souls with the Lord's love even helps you overcome personal loneliness: “But how can they call on him to save them unless they believe in him?  And how can they believe in him if they have never heard about him? And how can they hear about him unless someone tells them?  And how will anyone go and tell them without being sent? That is what the scripture means when they say, “How beautiful are the feet of those who brings good news:  - (Roman 10:14,15).

9.      If you show a real love for others, you won't have a hard time winning friends.  “…All of you should be of one mind, full of sympathy toward each other, loving one another with tender hearts and humble mind..” (I Peter 3:8).

10.    Experts on loneliness recommended reading and singing as an antidote to loneliness.  Watch what you read.  Therefore, you are recommended to edifying and faith-building Christian literatures, Bible and songs, worship and praise God when you feel lonely, but you are not alone.  The master Jesus is with you every moment.

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